Time For Tribute Website for Gay Community To Be Noticed



By Steven Kay






It seems natural for anyone to place a tribute into the local paper when a loved one dies.  But when Nigel Barnes, the founder of tried, he was refused at every stage, all owing to one little word  “gay”.

Nigel lost a very dear friend in 1993 and was devastated by the event.  His numerous attempts with different newspapers were to no avail as the local media was obvious homophobic at the time and obstructed his wishes.

Every year, Nigel pays his own tribute to his dearly departed friend, by tying his tribute to a single red rose with a rainbow ribbon, and dropping it into the sea to be carried away by the tides.

At one such tribute in 2001, Nigel realised he wanted to do more to help the LGBT community speak their feelings of loss for loved ones, by allowing them to produce tributes of their own.

After many years or struggling to set everything up, being met by con men and insincere people that plague the LGBT community, his site is now up and running.

Nigel has an obvious special reason for setting up this website, and he summed it all up by saying: “We all have a dream in this life; this is my dream to help others fondly remember their loved ones”.

On the site you can produce your own tribute for someone you have loved and lost.  The tribute will then be published on the website for whatever time period you specify and can be viewed publicly or only you can view it.

This website is an amazing new addition to the internet that is so obviously going to help so many people in the LGBT community all over the world.

This reporter feels he may some day use the service as well, and I urge you all to visit the website and see what an imaginative and much-needed corner of cyberspace it is.

While we all know that there is no such thing as a free lunch, placing a tribute on the site will not “break the bank” – and, it can be argued, it is cheaper than a newspaper tribute.

Prices are £20 for a full year, and this includes up to five photographs.

Hopefully some of you may actually take up the services offered by the website and help it to grow big enough to help everyone in the world touched by tragedy who cannot voice their grief in more local circles.


GayTributes website


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